the enigma of privacy vs. education around real sex

This enigma of privacy around the sexual act prevents proper education about the development of intimacy.  Add to this mix a kitchari of complicated cultural norms around marriage, love, and sexual practices, and one has no instruction on how to behave unless successful family and friends can teach. And even there lies a complication: family and friends cannot instruct a person how to behave intimately with a lover, how to allure, where to touch, where to kiss, how to press.

Kautilya and Vatsayana solved this problem by creating a user’s manual at a time when Buddhism had swept the land and more men were finding God than finding a partner.... 

~ EveryDay Ayurveda, 2015, Chapter 37 - Real Sex: Intimacy